Everyone has an invisible ruler in their heart. We use it to measure and judge everyday. As parents, we influence our children in establishing this ruler when they are toddlers. The child develops this ruler and calibrate accordingly with every situation they encounter in the school and eventual work.
The ruler of values is one of the most important. Integrity and honesty is among the most important values. The child learns by observing how the adults respond to a situation (even without the adult knowing). As parents, we need to be mindful and set good examples for the child to emulate. The child gets the signal that it's ok to do this and that from what they observe. Without good communication, the child will interpret and remember the reaction and react in the same way if they encounter similar situation. If you tell a (white) lie, expect your child to use this technique against you one day.
As we grow up, the boundary between black/white and right/wrong become blurred. The ruler will be benchmarked against different situations, at home, at work or in public. We may not have the time and patience to explain to the child why certain things are done a certain way. So we should try our best to conduct ourselves as the person we want our child to be.
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